Another lesson I’ve learned in 2014 is that boys are birthed, but men are built.
Lesson #2: Boys are Birthed, Men are Built
There is a difference between being a male and being a man. Being a man isn’t a matter of your age and your gender. Unfortunately, the culture we live in today doesn’t realize this, so “being a man” is described in all sorts of stupid ways. A few years back a comedy came out called “Think Like A Man.” It was a popular enough film that it produced a sequel within a couple years. Seeing the trailer for it was enough for me, I didn’t see the need to subject myself to witnessing something that would take a couple hours of my life that I would never get back.
The film was a romantic comedy, a playful look at the interaction between the male and female gender in our culture. Reading the description of the film, the four male characters play four different stereo-types of “men.” Their characters depict 1) The Mama’s boy, 2) The Non-Committer, 3) The Dreamer, and 4) The Player. I don’t think I need to delve any deeper into those stereo-types to spell out the issues associated with manhood in our culture. We are very familiar. Regrettably, the film was called “Think Like a Man,” instead of “Act Like a Boy.”
Boys are birthed, but men are built. About a year ago I succumbed to a vision that I had floating around in my head for a number of years. I recruited 9 guys to take a journey of mentorship with me for a year. We signed a covenant together, we read books each month, memorized Scripture, held each other accountable, and met regularly to eat, discuss, pray for, and challenge one another. It was a solid year. Every guy in the group grew a ton. I felt like the inaugural year (2014) was only the beginning of this journey at LifePoint, so I recently started a new website for the Men of LifePoint. I have recruited my 2015 group, and have witnessed a significant response. Wayne, another pastor on our staff, also led a 2014 group and has enrolled one for 2015 as well.
The culture we live in reveals an increasingly dire crisis related to the issue of manhood. Boys keep being birthed, but men aren’t birthed, they’re built. The church must take up the responsibility to build men, men of faith and integrity. Our culture doesn’t spit out men, it elongates boyhood. Grown males everywhere are addicted to pornography, wasting their lives simulating manhood by playing video games, demanding their wives work to support the family; remaining aloof, detached, and passive. We see it in culture and we see it in churches. So often, Mom takes spiritual leadership in the home because Dad is too clueless or careless to notice.
The only way to rectify the crisis of manhood is to beat it with a hammer. Boys are born, but men are built. Men aren’t built by our society today. They must be built by other men who are willing and able to forge a brotherhood led by God’s Spirit to accomplish God’s mission in our world.
And what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. 2 Timothy 2:2
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